There’s a specific kind of dread. Not wanting to open the banking app because you already have a feeling about what you’ll see.
The weird part is that I was right most of the time. The number was usually as bad as I feared. But avoiding it didn’t make it less bad — it just made me live in that dread all day instead of for five minutes.
I used to live like this. I’d tell myself I already knew roughly what was in there, so why look and feel worse.
Turns out I wasn’t alone in this, not even close. A survey of 2,000 US adults by Wakefield Research, done in September 2025, found that 44% of people avoid checking a financial account specifically because of stress or fear. Not “forget to check.” Avoid it on purpose.

Here’s the part that really got me: among people already experiencing high financial stress, 66% avoided their accounts. Two out of three.
| Financial Behavior | Percentage | Stress Level | Source | Date |
|---|---|---|---|---|
| Avoid Checking Accounts | 44% | General | Wakefield Research | Sept 2025 |
| Avoid Due to Stress/Fear | 44% | General | Wakefield Research | Sept 2025 |
| Avoid Accounts | 66% | High Financial Stress | Wakefield Research | Sept 2025 |
| Feel Completely in Control | 17% | General | Wakefield Research | Sept 2025 |
| Survey Sample Size | 2,000 Americans | General | Wakefield Research | Sept 2025 |
But “roughly” is exactly the problem. Avoiding the number doesn’t make it better. It just means you’re planning your life around a guess.
Try this: 37% of Americans Still Budget With Pen and Paper
What actually changed it for me wasn’t confidence. It was a rule.
I check on the same day every week, no matter what. Not when something feels wrong, not when I’m brave enough. Just a fixed day, like a habit, the same way you’d check the weather.
“I stopped waiting to feel brave enough to look. Bravery never came. So I just made it automatic, like brushing my teeth — no courage required, just a habit.

I stopped checking right after spending, and started checking before.
Looking right after you spend money almost always feels bad, you just watched the number drop. Looking before you plan your week gives you the same information without the same emotional gut-punch.
I write the number down somewhere, even when it’s ugly.
Not to judge myself. Just so avoiding it stops being an option. Once it’s written down, it’s just a fact, not a fear waiting in an app.
The same survey found only 17% of people feel completely in control of their financial future. That didn’t surprise me. If almost half of people are avoiding the information itself, how would anyone feel in control?
Same approach: Your Savings Account Might Be Secretly Costing You Money

Do you check your accounts on a schedule, or only when you feel ready to? Be honest with yourself on this one, not with me.
Avoiding the number never once made the number better. Looking at it, even when it’s hard, is the only thing that’s ever actually helped me plan.
Foundation for this: 53% of Americans Can’t Cover a $1,000 Emergency
Disclaimer: This article is for educational purposes only and should not be considered as financial or mental health advice. Financial anxiety and account avoidance behaviors vary by individual. Consult with a qualified financial advisor or mental health professional if financial stress is impacting your wellbeing.


























